Originally posted Feb 5, 2020
Make waves — It’s your turn to make a splash and rock a few creaky boats. Don’t be afraid to get wet. You may fail, you may look foolish, or you may make people think in a new way. Every great trailblazer and change-maker made waves. You’re no different.
A few weekends ago, I took a chance on a retreat nearby. I was reluctant to spend the money but I had too many signs to pass it up. I enjoyed every minute of it. We were limited time with our devices and we were focused on going inward. I noticed how much I am controlled by my devices. It was great to be away from it for most of the weekend. I learned to be with my thoughts more. I was aware of how I was thinking and talking to myself. I could choose again if a thought triggered me into fear or doubt.
I felt like I was seen. I didn’t know these people very well and it was important for me to speak my truth and be heard and seen. Even when I realized that I was talking too much, I felt the feeling of being “too much” and forgave myself for the thought of “no one cares about your husband and what he does for you”.
During the weekend, I opened up and told someone about my retreat. I wasn’t ashamed about it, or talked it down. I said how excited I was. I didn’t force anyone to agree with me. I didn’t beg anyone to come. My ego (Inner Asshole) wrote those last two sentences. My IA talks me down a lot, but I now realize when he is speaking and not my authentic self.
Have you found yourself in the negative story spiral? I know I am usually there a few times a day.
Try this: Choose Again Method
- Notice the negative fear based thought and how it feels.
- Forgive yourself for having the thought
- Choose again — reach for the next best feeling thought.
My mantra after the negative thought is:
I choose peace instead of this.
Make waves in your life. Don’t let others’ opinions or non-opinions steer you from your goal. Change the tides. Move mountains. Shine your light out to the world.
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” -Anna Quinlen
Love & Light,